The gift of the One’s intuition guides the moral compass of their families and instills high ethical standards.īut children naturally bring mess, disorder and chaos wherever they go. They bring high ideals and standards to their families. Photo by Landon Martin on Unsplash How the Enneagram Types Influence Motherhood Type Ones Today I hope they will benefit you as you navigate your own motherhood journey. Some of these insights I gained with the help of Janet Levine’s book, Know Your Parenting Personality. So I decided to embark on a journey of learning about how the Enneagram affects the parenting experience. When I first started learning about the Enneagram, I was very curious about how other types experienced parenting and how their Enneagram number affected their parenting experience. I had to learn how to listen to my own voice and have compassion and grace for myself in new ways. When their methods didn’t work, I experienced a lot of anxiety about doing it wrong. As a Type 1 I looked to certain parenting books that I thought would tell me exactly what to do. I had so many ideas of what a good mom would look like and I felt very discouraged when I realized that I did not live up to the ideals in my head.Īs I look back on this, I think my Enneagram Type played a part in this discrepancy and my ensuing disillusionment. When I became a mom, one of the many things that came as a shock is how much I idealized who I would be as a parent. How My Type Has Affected my Motherhood Journey A way that is attuned to the differences between us and open to the uniqueness of each of our children. ![]() We can observe and learn what our children need from us and parent not in an automatic and compulsive way, but in a more thoughtful way. When we wake up to the beauty of our diversity, we can take a step back. It shows us the variety of flavors of the human personality. We tend to think that our way of doing life is the right way. The Enneagram helps us understand that there are multiple ways of doing life. The temptation is to dig in our heels and try to make them like us. They are their own person with different needs, wants, and preferences. But sooner or later, our children send us a wake up call. It’s easy to think that our babies are a blank slate or to think that they are just like us. As moms, we run the risk of projecting our needs, desires, priorities, even our very personalities onto our kids. It’s one that I certainly didn’t see right away as a new mom. I thought this was such a profound observation. Having to remind myself that she is separate from me and a totally different person and has completely different needs. ![]() I’m still not 100% sure what type I am, but I imagine it would be thinking my daughter is the same as me and wanting to protect her the way I want to be protected. My friend and new mom, Jessica helped me see how important this is when I posed this question on Facebook: “How do you see your Enneagram type affecting your parenting experience?” Jessica replied: The Enneagram not only reveals ourselves to ourselves, but also opens our eyes to the myriad of ways others operate in the world. But first I want to share another profound reason why the Enneagram matters for moms. Finally, I offer invitations for growth for each type as it pertains to motherhood. I highlight the gifts each type brings as a parent, as well as potential weaknesses and blind spots. Then I’m walking you through how each type interacts with motherhood. Today I’m sharing how the Enneagram has impacted my motherhood journey. We can also enjoy the journey of parenthood more fully as we learn how to cope with the aspects of parenting that grate on us. ![]() We can then create a safer, healthier and more positive environment for our children. When we become aware of our strengths and our blind spots through the Enneagram, we can cultivate our awareness of the impact we have on our children. Ultimately that influences the life experiences of our children. It influences the way we operate in the world and how we shape the culture of our homes.
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